Recently I attended the YRB/Blac Label Event at The Gates with my friend Tamika of Cultureflyy.com and Shana, PR Specialist to support young entrepreneurs. All of us were huddled together on our perspective Blackerry’s having separate conversations but apparently it looked as if we were talking to each other. A nice gentleman came over and asked are you all talking to each other via BBM while standing right next to each other, I laughed and said no. But I could see how he would think that and we were currently the most social anti-social people in the room. He then presented us with a proposition, he asked if we could go the rest of the night without our Blackberry’s I was hesitant but I kindly obliged and took him up on his challenge. The gentleman was a funny personal banker who I enjoyed very much, it had been so long honestly since I haven’t had my phone as a distraction to me when interacting with people especially since I purchased this Blackberry. My new Blackberry keeps me organized but it is also the ultimate distraction since I can do so many task at once, which include holding a conversation while BBMing, texting, tweeting, setting an appointment, emailing, well you get the point.
Taking a breather, putting my phone away and having a real face to face interaction was definitely the highlight of my week. I love people who bring out the more outgoing side of me and help me to feel free when networking. With all of the advances in the internet and social networks, face to face social interaction seems to have become a thing of the past, I have to even check myself at times when I get caught up on my phone when I should be engaging in conversation. At times it is easier just to message someone, it is quick, painless and leaves out having to explain certain things especially due to character limitations.
Here are some signs you are a social path:
- Constantly checking your phone for updates including tweets, text, status updates, emails, etc.
- You introduce yourself as @Twitterhandle and refer to people by their handles when networking
- Talking without letting anyone else get a word in, real life conversations consist of a mutual interaction, a conversation is not a timeline or status update, might as well just talk to yourself
- You are in a group setting and all of you are on your phones and not interacting with each other
If you find yourself doing any of the things above, you are certainly a Socialpath. When establishing yourself and/or your business you definitely do not want to be viewed as socially inept when interacting. It is important that you build and maintain strong relationships when networking, a bad first impression may limit your chances of connecting with great individuals.